Sunday, July 30, 2006

Lessons from the River: Teamwork & Leadership

A couple of weeks ago, Dave and I went whitewater rafting on the Youghiogheny (YOK-i-gain-ee) River in southwestern Pennsylvania. Dave did some whitewater kayaking years ago, but this was his first time on a raft. It was my first whitewater experience of any kind.

We had such a good time that, as I write, we are revising our plans for our September vacation. Instead of taking a quiet vacation on the seashore at Cape Hatteras, North Carolina, we are going to explore the mountains and rivers of West Virginia via raft and horseback. We have both been doing Internet research all morning. Dave is continuing his research while I take a break to write this post.

As we paddled 7.5 miles in about 4 hours (including a 1/2 hour lunch break), Dave and I made some interesting observations about teamwork and leadership.

First, we observed how the various guides on the trip acted as a coherent team. Throughout the trip, the lead guide consulted the other team members about their various responsibilities. Moreover, the guides regularly consulted each other about swapping duties so that one person did not always have to take the lead or watch the rear or keep the lifeline ready and so on. Dave and I were impressed with how efficiently and effectively the guide team worked together.

Second, we noted that everybody in the raft has to function as part of a team. When the raft is in motion, all paddling must be synchronized to gain the maximum benefit from the least amount of effort. When the raft is lodged on top of a rock, all team members must act in unision to rock the raft or shift their weight to dislodge and get back into the water. Also, the person in the back of the raft is the captain who actually steers the raft and instructs the others about when and how to paddle. The captain does the steering, the rest of the team merely provides additional propulsive power as needed. When the team functions smoothly as a unit, the rafting experience is rewarding.

Third, we noticed what happens when the members of a raft team do not work well together. In some cases, when rafts were stuck atop rocks, some people were trying to rock while others were shifting their weight. Or several people were trying to be the captain and yelling out contradictory orders. Those teams took quite awhile to get their rafts situated into the water again. In other cases, when team members were thrown out of their rafts, the people still inside did not know how to help them back in or couldn't make up their minds what to do. Sometimes they just continued paddling and left the person floundering in the water to be rescued by another team in another raft.

One family in particular was really shaken up when the daughter, about 12 or 13 years old, fell into the river. The mother panicked and fell in while trying to help her daughter. The father jumped into the river to help his wife and daughter and then realized that, being in the water himself, he was just as helpless as they were. The guide in our raft ended up swimming over to help the girl and her brother, who was the only person left in the raft. We fished the mother out of the water and pulled her into our raft. The father ended up swimming to the shore until his family and raft were reunited. Meanwhile, their paddles had drifted way down river and had to be retrieved by a guide in an escort kayak. The family eventually got sorted out, but their expedition was somewhat spoiled by this episode.

It is appropriate at this point to commend the guides for the professional and sensitive way they dealt with a rather distraught family. During the lunch break, the lead guide spoke with the family and offered to get into their raft and steer them through some particularly tough rapids that were ahead. They gladly accepted his offer. He also spoke with the son, about 10 or 11 years old, who was particularly upset when his sister, mother and father all ended up going overboard. The guide acknowledged his feelings and said, "Yeah, it was pretty scary wasn't it?" He didn't minimize the boy's discomfort or talk down to him. He helped him deal with his fears straightforwardly and he helped the family regain confidence in themselves throughout the remainder of the trip.

Dave and I concluded that an expedition like this would be a great team-building/leadership exercise for camp staff, college RAs, etc. Working (paddling) together, following instructions, working through crises coherently and efficiently - all of these concepts are applied in whitewater rafting. Being the captain of a raft is also a great way to execise leadership - plotting the best route through the rapids, giving concise instructions in a timely manner, knowing when to steer and when to let the river's current carry your craft - these are all responsibilities that the captain bears.

When Dave and I climbed into our raft that morning we simply expected to have a good time on the river. We were pleasantly surprised when some valuable life lessons were included in the experience.



Saturday, July 29, 2006

Empty Nest Blues Preview

When Joshua flew to Europe two weeks ago, I was completely unprepared for my reaction.

I was staggered by the notion that my youngest child was mature enough to embark on a trip to several foreign lands accompanied by a bunch of people I don't know. I suddenly realized that, in a few short years, my child-rearing days will be over. That realization threw me into a morbid depression that lasted through the first couple of days of my vacation.

Dave was empathetic and supportive, and he patiently endured several tearful outbursts from me. I've spent most of my adult life raising my sons and I've enjoyed it most of the time. Of course, they've disappointed me on odd occasions, and, unfortunately, I know they could say the same about me. Overall, though, I've been blessed with a wonderful family: a caring, gentle husband and two sons who overwhelmingly make me proud to be their Mom. I love being a mother and I'm going to miss my sons when the size of our household diminishes to three and then to two.

Having said all that, I also look forward to Jonathan and Joshua's continued growth and development.

Jonathan is preparing to enter a Salvation Army College for Officer's Training (probably in Atlanta) within a year or two. He is incredibly energetic, compassionate and creative, and he throws himself wholeheartedly into corps ministries. He reminds me very much of my father. When it's time for him to leave my home and establish his own life, ministry and family, even though I will miss having him around the house, I anticipate that he will accomplish great things for God and The Salvation Army. I will enjoy watching that, even though my role in those things will be peripheral.

Joshua wants to be a music teacher. In addition to being blessed with musical ability, he is level-headed and even-tempered. He will work well with students, parents and school administrators. Again, when it's time for him to go, I will miss having him around the house, but I will also enjoy watching him grow and playing whatever my small role will be in those events.

I've given much thought to these matters in the past two weeks, and I'm slowly accepting the fact that my role in the lives of my adult children will move from the center to the edges. It will be difficult giving up center stage, which is where I've been for well over twenty years now. The time is quickly coming when I will no longer be the leading lady for either of my sons. But I also know that it's often the supporting cast that actually makes or breaks the show. When the time comes to move from center-stage to stage-right or stage-left, I will continue to play my part with gusto, for it will be a priviIege to participate in the ongoing pageants of my sons' lives.

Thursday, July 13, 2006

Marathon

A few days ago a friend of mine noted that I haven't posted any book reviews recently. Since he and my mother have expressed interest in my reviews, I'll post them more often. Here's one I wrote a few weeks ago.

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Marathon

Author: W. William Winokur
Publisher: Kissena Park Press
ISBN: 0-9768508-0-X

The Ice Woman. That’s what her partners at Schroeder, Wilkes and Barron call Marianna Gardner. It is an appropriate sobriquet for a woman who was too busy practicing law to attend her father’s funeral.

While sifting through her father’s belongings, Marianna comes across a reminder of a once cherished but long-forgotten family friend. Determined to re-establish some connection with her past, she finds “Uncle Ion” in a shabby nursing home. As they rekindle their relationship, Marianna examines her life and slowly realizes that she is not fond of the person she has become. Her journey of self-discovery accelerates when she and Uncle Ion travel to Greece so that he may conclude some personal business.

Marianna’s Grecian sojourn is far from peaceful. As her respect for the people around her grows, so does her disdain for her own life. Moreover, upon unearthing several old journals, Marianna uncovers startling truths about Uncle Ion’s life and her own origins. Shortly before he dies, Uncle Ion unravels the mysteries of the journals and his complicated connection to Marianna. The story concludes as, armed with new insights, Marianna gathers the courage to make peace with herself, break free from the chains that bind her and build a new life.

A recounting of Pheidippides’ mythic journeys frames the stories of Marianna and Ion. The parallel accounts of these varied journeys complement each other well. In order to remain free, Pheidippides and his countrymen must defeat the Persian invaders who threaten to enslave them. His journey shapes a nation. In order to die free, Ion must reveal his ties with Marianna. His journey shapes Marianna’s future. In order to become free, Marianna must relinquish the life that corrupts her. Her journey depicts the universal quest for meaning.

Readers who like epic tales of struggle and triumph will enjoy Marathon. This lengthy (nearly 500 pages), engrossing novel is a touching tribute to a teacher, Ion Theodore, who influenced the author’s life in an extraordinary way. W. William Winokur weaves fact, fiction, poetry, biography, history and mythology into a beautiful story that sensitively explores eternal questions about life’s meanings. A first-time novelist, Winokur has established a high standard for himself. His prose is graceful and poetic, his images are vivid and his characters are interesting. Imagine sitting at Ion’s feet as he teaches history, philosophy and art as a seamless whole. Feel Pheidippides’ exhaustion as he runs over mountains, his lips filled with messages that will determine the fate of a nation. Suffer Marianna’s grief as she examines a life filled with much regret and little honor. And most importantly, rejoice as Marianna travels from desolation through resurrection to redemption, for her triumph gives hope to all who are compelled to traverse the dark places of their souls.

Wednesday, July 12, 2006

Rehearsals, Rain & Sundry Items

This is the week Joshua prepares for his trip to Europe. The band is rehearsing daily at a high school about twenty miles from home. Dave and I are taking turns shuttling him back and forth. This morning it took me one hour and forty-five minutes to drop him off at the school, which is at the extreme northern end of the county, and then drive to work, which is close to the southern boundary of the county! I felt like I'd been to New Jersey and back!

Apart from driving around the county, I haven't gotten outdoors much today as we had several rainstorms this afternoon and evening. Just before the first one hit during my afternoon break, I managed to get to the park and snap this photo of a water lily. The thunder was rolling furiously as I scrambled back to my office. I made it with less than five minutes to spare before the heavens opened wide and spilled over.

It had stopped raining by the time I left to get supper. Then it poured the entire time I was at Fuddrucker's. By the time I got back to the ARC, it had stopped raining again. I wandered around our parking lot and found this photo opportunity - a drop of water hanging from a pine needle. Check out the reflections in the water.

Then it poured again throughout Vespers. To be honest, I thought the raindrops on the roof added some cool percussion to the music. Now all is quiet.

Tomorrow we will begin all over again - shuttling, rehearsing, working . . . . We'll have to wait and see whether the rain will revisit us.

Tuesday, July 11, 2006

A SATISFYING 15 MINUTES

After yesterday's excursion with my P&S, I decided that I'll have to carry my good camera around all the time. Since we had a staff meeting today (which always includes lunch) I only got one opportunity to go to the park. I came away with three photos that pleased me pretty well.

First, a frog on a lily pad. I was able to zoom way in on him and capture some good detail and texture, as well as pretty rich color in this guy.

This is a different frog who was just a couple of feet away from the first one. This is a close-up cropped from a larger photo.

I was also quite pleased with this water lily. I think the shadow in the water adds something special to an otherwise fairly ordinary shot.

As you can see, this 15 minute break was the highlight of an otherwise ordinary day at work. TGFB! (Thank God For Breaks!)

Monday, July 10, 2006

Two Creatures Great and Small

I took my little point & shoot camera (or P&S, as the photo folks say) for a walk during my morning break. I found these two critters hanging around by the ponds. The frog was quite cooperative. He sat still nicely while I snapped several photos. I was able to get within three feet or so of him. I possibly could have gotten closer if I'd stepped into the pond.

The blue heron, on the other hand, was skittish. I got one half-decent photo of him standing on the shore, but I prefer this one of him flying across the pond. Unlike the frog, he wouldn't let me get any closer than 50 feet or so.

Sunday, July 09, 2006

Glass of Water


I saw something similar to this at a photo web site and had to try it. I think it's cool how the reflections in the glass and the water droplets reverse the colors.

Saturday, July 08, 2006

Contrasts

Please note below two images to consider.

One is monochromatic;
the other is lush with color.

One is the product of human ingenuity and engineering;
the other is natural and organic.

One evokes motion, speed and adventure;
the other evokes rootedness, stability and tranquility.

Does either image resonate with you?
Do you perceive yourself as being
more like one than the other
or a blend of both?

Contrasting images,
contrasting personalities,
contrasting lives.

Intriguing ideas to consider.


Friday, July 07, 2006

Air & Space Museum - Dulles, VA

Last weekend Dave and I went to the Air & Space Museum extension in Dulles, Virginia. The original museum in downtown Washington, DC is still open but is too small to accommodate all of the aircraft they want to display. Hence, they've opened a second museum out near Dulles International Airport, which is housed in a huge airplane hangar. It's a nice place to spend a couple of hours with family and friends.

The photos below are just three of several that I took that day. If you're interested in seeing more, visit my photo gallery:


This link will get you to the main page of the gallery. Click on the first thumbnail and scroll through larger photos of the entire set (17 photos), or click on the thumbnail of any photo that interests you to look at a larger photo. Enjoy!



Thursday, July 06, 2006

The Independence Day Storm

If you read Dave's blog regularly, you know that we had a nasty storm on Independence Day. He posted three photos of Jonathan's car, which narrowly escaped sustaining major damage. Today I'll show you some more of the storm's effects.

Jonathan and Joshua survey the situation.

A tree sprawls across several parking spaces.

The roots of two trees.
The hole in the ground is about four feet deep and five feet wide.

Some shattered trees.

This truck narrowly escaped being crushed.
At the very least, the roof rack saved the windshield.

The storm didn't last long, but it certainly was intense. I think this storm caused more damage in our neighborhood than Hurricane Isabel did. Hopefully, it will be a long time before we see another one like it.

NORTHERN VIRGINIA SUNSET #2


Yesterday I posted a photo of the sun going down. Today's photo was taken when I turned around to see what was going on behind me. The back end of a sunset is as interesting as the front.

After I finished taking these photos, as I was packing my gear into the car, a lady pulled up beside me. She rolled down her window and said, "Did you see the deer that just ran across the road?"

My jaw dropped so hard and fast I've got road rash on my chin! I never saw the deer.

The moral of the story: You can't see what's on the ground when your head is in the clouds.

Wednesday, July 05, 2006

Tuesday, July 04, 2006

Camping Report #2: Our Map


Dave and I got the idea for this blog from my nephew, Christian, who posted something similar a couple of months ago. I will give a brief report on the conclusion of our camping trip, then discuss the map.

THE TRIP
If you read Sunday's post, you know that Jonathan and I returned home in the lull between two rainstorms on Sunday evening. Many areas of Fairfax County were without power going into Monday morning and several areas were damaged by severe winds. Meanwhile, back at the campground, Dave and Joshua were high and dry. They had to contend with the odd rain drop here and there, but it was no big deal.


After work yesterday, I returned to the campground. Dave, Joshua and I had steak cooked over the fire.

Jonathan had Domino's pizza back home (his leftovers are still in the fridge). Those of who were camping hung out by the fire for awhile, then retired for the evening.

This morning, we packed up and came home. The four of us will be watching the local fireworks show tonight. That will be the finale to July 4th weekend, 2006.

THE MAP
The map shown above is attached to the side of our camper. Generally speaking, it marks all places in Canada and the USA where members of our family have been. There are two rules for posting a state or province on the map.


1. This is unbreakable - at least two members of the family have to have been to a place together. So, even though I've been to the state of Washington, we can't add it to the map because I'm the only family member who has ever been there. Also, even though Dave and I have both been to Alberta, we've never been there together. Therefore, Alberta remains blank.

2. In addition to satisfying rule #1, we must have either stayed overnight or driven through a substantial portion of a state or province to post it. If we only drive through a tiny portion for just a few minutes, it doesn't go on the map.

One thing I find interesting about this map is that we have actually camped in either a tent, pop-up camper or current RV in the vast majority of places marked. Moreover, the boys have been with us for many of these trips.

Our next mission: find some ways to fill in those empty western areas. We want this entire map filled as soon as possible.

Sunday, July 02, 2006

Camping Report #1

Our camping weekend is almost over. It's Sunday night and Jonathan and I have returned home so that we can go to work tomorrow. Dave and Joshua are still at the campground. I will return to the campground in time for supper tomorrow night. Jonathan will stay home since he has to work until 6:30 PM.

Friday went well, once the boys and I managed to get out of town. Summer weekend traffic is horrific in this area and holiday weekend traffic is the worst! Those of you familiar with Toronto's cottage country traffic will have an idea of what it's like.

On Saturday morning, Jonathan woke up early and drove to Camp Happyland. He and most of the other members of the National Capital Band spent the day tutoring the music conservatory students. Dave, Joshua and I hung around the campsite throughout the morning. In the afternoon, Dave and I took Joshua to his marching band meeting and we spent a couple of hours at the Air & Space Museum extension at Dulles Airport. I will post some of those photos in the coming days and I'm sure Dave will too.

All four of us had supper together at the campground and spent the evening relaxing together.

This morning (Sunday) Joshua and Jonathan woke up early to head to the Fairfax corps. Dave and I did some sightseeing at the Manassas battlefield. Photos will follow, I'm sure. We all ate supper together at the campground. Unfortunately, Jonathan and I had to leave earlier than we had planned as we wanted to get home before a rainstorm hit. We managed to get home between a couple of storms that have hit the area. When we arrived in our parking lot there were tree limbs all over the place. It's quiet at the moment, but it was storming awhile ago. Fortunately, we were safe and dry inside the house. I'm sure Dave and Joshua are glad they have the RV rather than the pop-up trailer.

I hope the storms are all over by the time I go back to the campground tomorrow. If the weather is nice Tuesday, we're hoping to swim and enjoy the campground until mid-afternoon. Then we'll head back home in time for supper.